Refine Community Featured Member Dawn Stebbing

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Let YOUR light SHINE!


For the last few weeks, my eyes have been glued to the TV watching the news report the devastation from hurricane Harvey and now hurricane Irma. My heart aches for those who are going through this and experiencing loss. I pray.

I'm encouraged by the stories I hear about people coming together from across the country from all walks of life to help -- offering assistance and hope. AND...the resilience + positive attitudes and outlook of many of the victims!

I see LIGHT in dark times.

We ALL have our own unique "dark" hard times in life. The reality is, life. is. hard. BUT through that, it doesn't need to dull our shine! As we are living your lives and engaging with others; friends, co-workers, family, strangers. Our light can SHINE! It's a choice.

Is your light shining? Do others see light from you? Regardless of your circumstance?

How do you maintain the light and/or shine brighter?

What helps me is knowing my strength and hope comes from the Lord. I have bad days, I do. But God is good. Most often when I take the time to look for the good in my dark hard situations I can find something to be grateful for. THIS fuels me to SHINE BRIGHT.

I love this quote by Dwight L. Moody »» “We are told to let our light shine, and if it does, we won’t need to tell anybody it does. Lighthouses don’t fire cannons to call attention to their shining- they just shine.”

Lets choose to be intentional about shining our light into the lives of others.

What do YOU say? Leave a comment and let me know! I would LOVE to hear from you!

Do you give to get?

Sometimes we need to check our motives on things -- especially when it comes to giving. If I'm honest, there are situations when I "give to get". I may not speak that out loud, but in my heart -- there's a silent expectation. An unspoken assumption that IF I do/give __________________ (fill in the blank) perhaps I will receive ________________________ in return. (fill in the blank)

Can you relate to this? Even a tiny bit?

What happens when I have strings attached to my giving, I often feel let down or bitter. Resentment and judgement can rise up inside me along with disappointment.

I'm not talking only about monetary giving. I'm talking about ANY type of giving -- time, advice, character, behavior, or other resources.

Do YOU give to get?

There are phrases like:

  • If you want kindness, be kind.
  • If you want friends, be friendly.
  • If you want help, be helpful.
  • If you want love, be loving.
  • You get what you give.

The reality is, I haven't always found that to be true. Sometimes, yes. But, people aren't always kind, friendly, helpful, and loving -- even when I'm kind, friendly, helpful, and loving to them!

Check in with yourself.

What are your motives when you give?

Lets not have silent expectations that no one is capable of meeting. Lets clearly communicate what we are looking for or hoping to accomplish. Lets focus on taking the high road, being a blessing, and freely giving -- even when we know we can get nothing back.

The light shines in darkness.

I just wanted to invite you to think about something. There is SO much negativity, hurt, darkness, and pain surrounding us! No matter what we are currently going through, have been thorough, or are experiencing in our lives, we have a choice every day and in every situation to operate in 1 of 2 ways:

  1. Be a part of the "YUK" ...the problem.
  2. Bring a positive attitude/outlook, encouragement, and solutions.

As you’re living your life and engaging with others; friends, clients, co-workers, family, strangers »» Is your "light" shining?

Do others see light from you?

IF not (or as consistently as you'd like), WHY?

How do you maintain the "light" and/or shine brighter?

“ We are told to let our light shine, and if it does, we won’t need to tell anybody it does. Lighthouses don’t fire cannons to call attention to their shining- they just shine.” – Dwight L. Moody

The light shines in darkness. «« let's remember that + be THAT!

Be a blessing.

Most days, if we are honest. Or maybe it’s too presumptive that I include you in this — let me know. Ha. BUT, most days, when I wake up , I’m thinking about ME!

I’m thinking about everything I need to accomplish and what needs to get checked off my to-do list. I’m focused on where I need to be, what I need to be doing, and how I will get through another day!

All these things are important. AND…really — a lot of the “things” I have jam packed in my day include others! They do.

I’m serving my family.

I’m serving my clients.

I’m working on and addressing things that impact those around me.

However, IF I’m not careful I can get SO caught up in ALL OF IT that I lose sight of others.

Can you relate?

I need to constantly remind myself of the outcome I truly desire and that is this…

…to bless the socks off of others!

Included in the list of “others” are those closest to me. YIKES!

That’s why I need to daily ask myself THIS:


When I’m mindful of “ being a blessing ” a shift takes place inside of me. My day becomes more about WHO I’m interacting with and WHY I’m doing things, rather than WHAT I’ve got on my plate.

Additionally, it turns the mundane or the daily grind into an adventure or a fun-challenge to see how I can make a positive impact in the lives of others.

The BONUS + the beauty of having this shift in perspective is we are blessed in return!

It’s a win/win/win »» we are BLESSED to be. a. blessing + we get. things. done!


As you live out your life today, ask the question, how can I be a blessing? I’d love to hear your win/win/win story! Leave a comment and let me know!

Walk away from the fault finder.


One of the GREATEST gifts we have in life is the freedom to choose. Each day, when we wake up and our feet hit the floor we can choose to have a good day! We can choose to rise above our circumstances and look for the good. We can choose what we let "get to us" and what we don't. We can choose WHO we connect with, who we allow to influence us, and whose voices and input we are impacted by. Additionally, we can choose how we respond.

BUT, I know from experience, it can be extremely difficult to walk away from people, places, and things that are NOT serving us well. Negativity and ickyness surrounds us. We get hit from every angle. From the news, social media, and work environments, to our family, friends, and those living under the same roof.

How do we protect ourselves from all the noise that bleeds discouragement, steals our joy, deflates our ambition, and kills our dreams?

We walk away from the fault finder!

You know what I'm talking about right? The fault finder = a person who habitually finds fault, complains, or objects, especially in a petty way.

We graciously and strategically distance ourselves from what brings us down and draw near to the people, places, and things that build us UP!

When I point the "fault finder" out to my clients and the women I work with, and suggest they walk away, the question I continually get is, "HOW? I don't know how to do it!"

I provide many suggestions based on their specific circumstances. But, here are a couple of places to start:

  • Unsubscribe, unfollow, block, unfriend.
  • Set boundaries and communicate them with others.
  • Discover the TRUTH about who you are so you can stand tall, confident, and protect your heart.

What or who is not serving you well in your life right now? What do YOU need to walk away from? What do you need more or less of to help you move forward? I would LOVE to hear your answers, hit reply and let me know!

REMEMBER, one of the GREATEST gifts we have in life is the freedom to choose. Choose wisely and SHINE ON!

Is perfect tripping you up?

Seriously -- the word PERFECT? It sometimes makes me anxious and causes me to question myself and wonder a whole bunch of things:

Is what I'm doing or working on good enough?
Did I make the right decision?
Am I good enough?
Did is say the right thing?
What do others think?

YIKES! IS "IT" (whatever "it" is) PERFECT???

When I look the word up in the dictionary to see if I've "arrived" to perfect based on what the word means, it says:

  • Conforming absolutely to the description or definition of an ideal type
  • Entirely without any flaws, defects, or shortcomings
  • Exactly fitting the need in a certain situation or for a certain purpose

I fall sort.

Every time.

I'm NOT perfect.

Honestly -- from what I can see, "perfect" is subjective and in the eyes of the beholder. We all have different perceptions and realities. What may seem perfect to one, may not seem perfect to another.

If we are striving for perfect we will grow weary. If we wait until everything is perfect we will be stuck. WHY? It. does. NOT. exist.

Several years ago, after I got married and had my first child, I received input and opinions from every angle on ALL the things I should/should not be doing as a wife, mom, working women AND what my kid should/should not be doing at a certain age -- I made the decision to STOP!

I decided to STOP trying to be perfect and make everything perfect or "seem" perfect. Instead, I committed to excellence and to do my best. PERIOD.

GOOD-BYE perfect and the opinions of others.

HELLO to doing my best, pursuing excellence, and waking up every day saying yes to God -- accepting HIS mercy and grace and forgiveness and seeking to put a smile on HIS face!

Is perfect tripping YOU up? IF so, kick it to the curb and join me on a different journey and move forward embracing I'Mperfect. Truly. It's a whole lot lighter.

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Because HE lives, I can face tomorrow!

Every Easter I'm reminded of the song I grew up singing at church, Because He Lives, have you heard it?

The chorus goes like this:

Because He lives, I can face tomorrow,
Because He lives, all fear is gone;
Because I know He holds the future,
And life is worth the living,
Just because He lives!

Today is special. For some, celebrated with egg hunts, baskets, candy, and chocolate bunnies. AND it's SUPER DUPER SPECIAL because Jesus Christ is alive! We serve a living God.

Not only can we face tomorrow, as the chorus says, but we have GRACE! The free sovereign favor to the ill-deserving, the unconditional extravagant love toward a person who does not deserve it. «« I KNOW I fall into that category, do YOU? What a priceless gift!

ADDITIONALLY, because HE lives...

  • We can face life :: "This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it." Psalm 118:24
  • We don't have to worry :: “Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing?" Matthew 6:25
  • We have hope :: "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." Philippians 4:13
  • We can face death :: "For I am already being poured out as a drink offering, and the time of my departure has come. I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith." 2 Timothy 4:6-7
  • We can face eternity :: "For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord." Romans 6:23

This is a short list of what is found through the death and resurrection of our Savior.

We are significantly blessed to be able to receive the priceless gift from our Heavenly Father, "For God so loved the world, that He gave His only Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life." John 3:16

Just because He lives. That is enough.

Do NOT run & hide.

We ALL screw up! Every single person, from time to time, does things, says things, and responds to things in ways they are not proud of. OR...we get "caught" -- in some way or another, triggering us to want to escape from feelings of regret, embarrassment, shame, guilt!

Have you ever been there? I know I have.

Most often our initial response in these types of situations is the desire to run & hide! Our minds race trying to formulate the perfect excuse or story to project blame on someone or something or ANYTHING so we don't have to feel unpleasant feelings.

Additionally, we don't want to disappoint others, be judged, or exposed! It's not a pleasant place to be. truly.

It took me many years, and a whole lot of emotional pain to finally realize the best way to deal with ALL "ugly" situations is »» head ON!

At first -- it's not easy. It's extremely hard + humbling + frightening.

BUT, because we are human and continue to screw up -- we get opportunities to strengthen the "face all ugly situations head on muscle" if we choose to, AND, it gets easier!

Not only does it get easier, but the choice allows us to live in freedom with nothing to hide. It's empowering to be the first to embrace ALL situations and face life head on, taking ownership.

IF you're struggling with some "ugly" stuff in your life, personally or professionally, I encourage you, DO NOT run & hide! Face it head on and GO with God! Ask Him for wisdom, strength, and courage.

REMEMBER »» "The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." - Martin Luther King