4 simple steps to get “back on track” to reach your goals

How did the first 31 days of 2018 go for YOU?

I started planning for 2018 personally AND professionally, with my team in November. I chose my one word for the year, set goals, and had GREAT intentions to take massive action when I woke up on January 1st. BUT...something happened. YIKES!

I went live on Facebook to talk about my epic January "fail" and share a few tools to encourage YOU -- check it out below! It will NOT be a waste of time, PROMISE! =)

January isn’t the ONLY month to start!

 

How did the first 31 days of 2018 go for YOU? Listen in to hear about my epic January "fail" AND 4 simple steps to get “back on track” to reach your goals...when you lose your way or have a set back!
#beencouraged and remember January isn’t the ONLY month to start! Get the worksheet: http://bit.ly/2E2ZYUa

Posted by Keeping it Personal on Thursday, February 1, 2018


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Compared to what?!?!

Why do people do this »» COMPARE?

What I’ve realized, as I ‘ve been working with my clients — and when I fall into comparison, is it brings feelings of inadequacy, depression, anxiety, fear, and self-pity. «« those are NOT lovely feelings! YUK!

Can YOU relate?

A lot of times comparison rears its ugly head when we try to “stack up against” character traits, roles, circumstances, and experiences – NOT necessarily material possessions. Some people think these things, let me explain by giving a couple examples:

  • MOM = I should volunteer more compared to some of the other moms at the school. It seems that other moms are more creative and crafty, scrap-booking, and doing little projects with their kids. We could compare ourselves with other moms wishing we were more creative or thoughtful that way. I should dress my kids cuter compared to how some of the other moms dress their kids or I wish I liked to shop like other moms. Other kids are involved with more activities than mine so I compare myself – should I sign the kids up to do more? Are they not experiencing enough at this age?
  • SPOUSE = I wish I was a better cook and more domestic compared to other spouses. I’m not as “handy” as that person! Why don’t I enjoy cooking and decorating my home? I wish I was more like others who planned meals and knew how to make their homes feel more “homey”. My home is not clean enough, organized enough, run as well as that persons.
  • FRIENDS = We see others’ circle of friends and think, “I want that!” We compare our life with theirs and wish we were invited more often to social events, parties, concerts, dinners. “They” seem to be having so much fun and doing great things. We think, “I want that too! Why don’t I get invitations?” We compare ourselves and ask ourselves questions like: Is there something wrong with me? Am I not good enough? Do others not enjoy being with me?
  • ME = I’m not passionate enough about what I’m doing compared to others. I don’t make as much money as that person. My thighs are bigger compared to that girls. I can’t do my hair well compared to that person’s — I wish I knew how to style my hair better. I’ve got no style with my clothes compared to others, I wish I could put together outfits like her. That woman is smarter compared to me – I wish I knew it like she did.

Do you ever find yourself thinking some of those thoughts?

Do you ever compare yourself, experiences, situations, to others and feel inadequate, depressed, anxiety, fear, or self-pity?

I could list many more “comparing thoughts” that race through my mind from time to time. And because I work with SO many clients, personally + professionally — I know we are NOT alone!

Our minds just go there sometime.

BUT — the question is »» COMPARED TO WHAT?!?! «« who holds the measuring stick?

We have the ability to CHANGE OUR FOCUS!

We can start shining the light on what God has blessed us with!

We can appreciate the gifts and talents in others, BUT not lose focus on our strengths and what we have been given!

I was reminded the other day of the story in the Bible about the 3 servants who were given talents. One was given 5, one 2, and the other 1. May we NEVER be like the servant who was given 1 talent. What did he do? NOTHING. Out of fear, he did nothing – he was comparing himself and as a result paralyzed.

Step OUT of the comparison trap and ALL of the icky feelings that come with it and step INTO shining the light on our blessings and talents, learning to appreciate our uniqueness and our many gifts — instead of comparing and wishing we had or were something we ‘re not.

What do you say? Are you with me? Hit reply and let me know your feedback!


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Make the days count!

Next Sunday is October 1. That means we are entering Q4 of 2017!

Why does that matter?

Well, if you're a goal setter and/or an entrepreneur or business owner -- it's VERY important and you most likely care A LOT!

We've got 3 months remaining to hit the goals + revenue projections we set in place, and finish strong!

92 opportunities to make the days count!

What 's your plan?

In July -- I realized I was "behind" on one of my personal goals, WAY behind! I made the decision I was NOT going to enter the first day of 2018 with the same health & wellness goal I've had since 2015! YIKES! Yep. I 've had this "annual" goal for over 2 years!

I decided to take action.

I mapped out my strategy, hired a coach for accountability + to kick my butt, and I'm proud to say I 'm close to reaching my goal! If I continue to make the days count, by December 31st -- I will be doing a happy dance! WHOOT!

Do YOU have any lingering goals, like me?

Are you on track to reach or exceed your personal + professional 2017 goals?

  • IF YES » GREAT! What does it look like for you to finish the year strong and make the days count?
  • IF NO » What is YOUR plan to finish the year strong and make the days count?

What I know to be true is, "If we fail to plan -- we plan to fail." You've heard that quote before right?

Take a minute to do a quick assessment on your 6 areas of personal perspective: emotional. spiritual. health & wellness. financial. professional. relationships. «« where would you like to be in each of these areas when you're enjoying your New Year's Eve celebration?

Do you need to do a reset to restart? That's ok! Do it!

Maybe you 've realized the bar was set too high and you need to re-adjust your strategy, that's ok! Break it down.

What's realistic for you to accomplish in Q4?

Figure it out and take action!

Need help with THIS? I've got you covered! On Friday, October 27th I'm hosting a 1-Day event for WOMEN Entrepreneurs + Business Owners + Sales Professionals! You will develop a plan to finish the year STRONG + jump start on 2018 with a strategic plan and goals! That's what we will focus on at this event! Get crystal clear and know EXACTLY what you need to start doing, stop doing, and continue doing to GROW YOUR BUSINESS + PERSONALLY + MAKE AN IMPACT!

JOIN ME and other amazing like-minded women! You will NOT be disappointed, promise. Take advantage of this 1-Day event focused on YOU! For ALL the details and to get registered, CLICK HERE!

Got QUESTIONS? Hit reply and let me know! I 'd LOVE to hear from you!


Who's watching you?

Have you ever had a freak-out moment where you were possibly showing your #bside (you know, that side of you that's not pretty) and then realize when it's over more people than you thought, were watching you or listening in??

I have.

At the grocery store when my kids were younger, I can remember that happening several times! YIKES!

On the flip side -- there have been times where others have noticed kind things I've done when I didn't realize anyone was watching.

The point is, you NEVER know »» WHO'S WATCHING YOU!

Everyday we have the opportunity to teach, lead, and inspire those around us with our actions, our words, and just how we do life interacting with others -- responding to whatever life brings »» The good. bad. ugly. beautiful.

Our life is our message!

What is yours saying to those who are watching you?

What character traits would people around you use to describe you?

Chew on these questions. Are there any areas that could use some attention, personally or professionally? (A couple are coming to mind for ME as I write this email! *sigh*)

Let's focus on being the best version of ourselves, so no matter who may be watching us here on earth, they are better off because of it!


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Communication KILLS assumptions!

I admit it, I'm GUILTY. At times, of making assumptions.

It happens for all of us. RIGHT?

Some nights I lay awake in bed with my mind racing. Thoughts are going crazy playing out certain scenarios. I create outcomes and stories making my best guess about how others will respond, or decide what they are thinking.

Most of the time, when this is taking place -- I'm not thinking of the best case scenario. NOPE. I'm not. I'm thinking of the worst.

WHY is this a problem?

Because our judgements of people and events are based on emotions, beliefs, expectations, and wishes -- instead of facts and what is actually observed.

Assumptions are "things" accepted as true or as certain to happen, without proof. The the book, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, he says this about assumptions:

"We have the tendency to make assumptions about everything. The true problem with making these assumptions is that we believe they are the truth. We could swear they are real. We make assumptions about what others are doing or thinking-we take it personally-then we blame them and react by sending emotional poison with our word. That is why whenever we make assumptions, we're asking for problems. We make assumptions, we misunderstand, and end up creating a whole big drama for nothing.

All of the sadness and drama you have in your life was rooted in making assumptions and taking things personally. Once we do these two things, we start gossiping about our assumptions. Because we are often fearful of asking for clarification, we make assumptions, and then believe that we are correct in these assumptions. Then, we defend these assumptions and try to make someone else wrong. It is always better to ask questions for clarification because assumptions set us up for suffering."

SO much time and energy is wasted when we make them, plus anxiety and worry can build up which leads to no where and keeps us stuck.

Lets STOP the madness »» COMMUNICATION KILLS ASSUMPTIONS!

Kick fear to the curb and in ALL areas of our lives, personally + professionally:

  • ASK questions and gather facts.
  • FACE people and situations head on.
  • CONNECT with others to gain clarity.
  • SEE things for what they really are.
  • MOVE forward with what is true.

How is "making assumptions" impacting your life? What can you do different to get different results? Leave a comment and let me know! I'd love to hear from YOU!


Get FULLY Dressed

Armor of God Eph 6:10-17

No matter how hard I try to make the best decisions.  No matter how well life seems to be going.  Hiccups happen.  Life Happens...

...there are battles that need to be fought.

Some battles we can see -- they stare us in the face!  They are with people; in our relationships.  They are with our thoughts; battlefield of the mind.  They are physical, emotional, and financial.

I've been experiencing BIG battles lately, they make no sense.  They are exhausting and I can't see them -- but, I can feel them and sense the chaos around me.  I can see the confusion and discouragement these battles bring into my life, into my relationships, into my business decisions.

::::::  Have YOU experienced this "type" of battle?  ::::::

These battles,  are BIGGER than me and in my flesh I am not equipped to face them or go through them.  They stop me in. my. tracks.  They paralyze me.  They distract me and prevent me from taking action.

WHY?  Because, "...our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms." {Ephesians 6:12}

WHY?  Because these are spiritual battles that can ONLY be fought in the spiritual realm.

No external tool that I have access to is strong enough to fight, overcome, and experience victory.  I need to get fully dressed everyday + mindfully tap into the spiritual tools for the spiritual battle, The Full Armor of God:  {click to tweet that}

"Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power.  Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes." Ephesians 6:10-11

What does this mean and how exactly do we get fully dressed with the armor of God?

We've got 6 essential pieces that equip us:  Belt. Breastplate. Shoes. Shield. Helmet. Sword.

Armor of GodLets take some time to unpack the "outfit" -- will you? With me?

"Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one.  Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God." Ephesians 6:14-17

I've heard this verse too many times to count, but have never taken the time to study it, have you?  There's no better time than the present.  Plus, knowledge is power if we apply it into our lives!

I hope you will join me on this adventure!  IF so, simply CLICK THIS LINK.  You will receive a FREE printable version of the graphic above + emails from me to ENCOURAGE you as we unpack each piece of armor.


For it is by Grace

“For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God…” Ephesians 2:8

The envelope was unmarked and addressed to me. I hesitated to open it, thinking it was probably junk mail or some unwarranted solicitation. It nearly went into the trash pile without a second glance.

But, something told me to go ahead and peek inside. When I did, I was amazed. It contained a touching note and a check for a significant amount. Anonymously. The person’s note spoke of being blessed. God had used something in my writing to touch her intimately. She knew of struggles my family was facing and wanted to help. Somehow, she found my address and acted upon that nudging...

...I was overwhelmed.

She gave a gift. A gift I could not repay or even personally thank her for giving. A gift I simply had to receive.

As I think about Christmas, it’s easy to get caught up in all the mayhem of the season. Presents, decorating, baking, parties, cards, shopping and everything else. It seems everywhere we turn there are distractions the world is throwing at us. But the best gift is the one we cannot give. The one we don’t deserve. The one we can’t repay. The one we simply receive.

Jesus.

He chose to come to be the Way. Without Him, we have no hope. Without Him, or future is dark. But, if we choose to accept and receive His gift of salvation, we are secure. There is hope.

Every year about this time, I try to steal away and relax with Him. Even if it’s just for an hour or so, stepping out of the hustle and bustle of the commercialized Christmas activities keeps me focused on the true meaning: His unbelievable gift of salvation for all eternity. His choice to humble himself to a life of poverty and scorn, only to die a death He didn’t deserve and pay the price for all sins past, present and future. In order that we might spend all of eternity with Him...

...He loves us that much!

No store gift could ever compare.

And, He knows that there is nothing I say or do could earn His gift. I simply have to receive. Lay down my pride, my fears, my doubts, my control and anything else that my hands might be grasping on to hold. Empty them, so that I might receive the best gift ever.

Jesus.