When you think about your hopes and dreams, do you secretly feel like a failure?

I understand because I believed that same lie for many years. My inner talk track constantly told me: “You are a failure.”

It was so bad that my list of things I “failed” to accomplish personally and professionally was long. From weight loss to income goals to running races to being a better wife, friend, business owner–disappointment hung over me like a cloud.

It got to the point where I stopped sharing things I wanted to accomplish with others because it was too painful to offer my excuses disguised as reasons for not succeeding. 

Can you relate, even just a teeny, tiny bit? 

This lie that steals our joy and causes us to feel inadequate, less than, not good enough, or stuck is something many women – and some of my clients – experience from time to time. 

Since failure is an event and NOT a person, then you are not a failure. Let me say that one more time to make sure you heard me: YOU are NOT a failure. 

Doing our best fluctuates from time to based on our circumstances. The longer you live, the more you will deal with things not turning out the way you planned.

How we respond to each situation is what matters most.  The key to moving forward is to:

  • Recognize that disappointments have beneficial lessons. (See Isa. 40:31)
  • Extend yourself grace and learn from every challenging situation. (See Eph. 4:7)
  • Rise above your circumstances. (See Dan. 3:17)
  • Focus on your goals, not your fears. (See 2 Tim. 1:7)
  • Make decisions based on your experiences. (See James 1:5)

Let me encourage you to ditch the “I am a failure lie” today. Focus on finding stepping stones that will move your forward.

P.S. Reflect on lies you need to banish and replace them with stepping stones to move you forward. I’d love to know what lie you’re removing from your inner talk track. Comment below and let me know.