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About Jill Hart

Jill Hart's entrepreneurial career began in her teens when she spent a summer working with her father who ran his own business. When he put her in charge of a Coke machine and allowed her to keep the profits, she saw the benefits of being her own boss. She is the founder of the popular Christian work-at-home website, CWAHM.com. Jill has articles published in In Touch Magazine, P31 Woman magazine and Focus on the Family’s Thriving Family, as well as across the web on sites like DrLaura.com. She is the author of So You Want To Be a Work-at-Home Mom and speaks to audiences around the country about faith, business and leadership topics.
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My Life As A Failure: When We Want To Quit

Have you had one of those days where you just wanted to quit? I reached that point recently – I just wanted to lay everything down and take a nap…

…a five year nap.

I felt overwhelmed, stretched-too-thin and had convinced myself that certainly anyone else could all these things better than I could. So why bother? Why not step away from it all and quit?

What do you do when the world feels like it’s crumbling around you? When all those plates you’re spinning in the air seem as if they are tipping in different directions, ready to crash down upon your head at any moment?

Do you give in and run away, like I was tempted to do? Or do you dig your heels in and tell yourself, “This too shall pass.”

It frustrates me that at times like these my first reaction is always to run and hide (and long for that nap…). I’m grateful that God places people in my life to remind me of His truth and my responsibilities.

I shared my feelings and sense of being overwhelmed with a trusted friend during this time and they gently nudged me with the truth straight from God’s Word. In 1 Peter chapter five, we’re told, starting with verse six:

Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that the family of believers throughout the world is undergoing the same kind of sufferings.

This passage is packed with good stuff! First, we are to humble ourselves and lay ALL of our anxiety at His feet. So, when we’re feeling overwhelmed, all we need to do is run to Him and pour our hearts out to Him (Ps 62:8).

And secondly, we are to remember and be aware that our enemy, the devil, is always looking for ways to “devour” us. It’s so easy to get caught up in life on this planet and forget that there is a spiritual battle going on. The beauty of it all, though, is that all that God asks us to do to overcome this is Be Aware and Stand Firm. The battle is the Lord’s, but we are called to keep ourselves mindful of the spiritual battle that rages, so that we don’t give in to the enemy’s tricks and traps.

So, to break it down, I’m learning that there are several ways that we can keep ourselves afloat during the “I want to quit it all” moments.

Be Diligent – keep yourself daily in the Word of God. Take time throughout the day to pray – for yourself and for others – and to praise God for what He is doing in your life and in the world around you.

Stand Strong – Surround yourself with trusted counsel – friends who love the Lord and whom you can trust to speak truth into your life. Work together to stand strong and keep the faith when times are hard.

WaitWait on the LORD: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen your heart: wait, I say, on the LORD. Psalm 27:14

The next time you find yourself wanting to hide under the covers, remember the battle that rages around you. Dig deep and find the strength to stand firm in the faith and keep moving forward even when it feels impossible.

My Life As A Failure: When We Judge

Do you ever find yourself judging others? I don’t intend to judge the way those around me dress or talk or style their hair. And when I am consciously thinking about it, I know that I am certainly no better than anyone…

…if anything I’m probably worse.

But those judgmental thoughts still creep in.

In the grocery store when a fellow mom can’t seem to control her cranky two year-old. My children never acted like that.

In line at the Post Office when another woman has on an old, out of style outfit. I would never wear that.

It happens all the time. Without even consciously planning to judge others, we consistently compare ourselves to others in our minds to see how they stack up to how we see ourselves.

Gulp.

As followers of Christ, we know that we are not to judge others. I came across a verse recently that was a painful reminder of why we are commanded not to judge:

“For who makes you different from anyone else? What do you have that you did not receive? And if you did receive it, why do you boast as though you did not?”  1 Corinthians 4:7 NIV

Ouch!

We are no different than anyone else. King Solomon, the wisest king in history, laments this same thing in the book of Ecclesiastes.

“The wise man has eyes in his head, while the fool walks in the darkness; but I came to realize that the same fate overtakes them both.” Ecclesiastes 2:14

We all want to be special. We want to stand out from the crowd. Be the best, the prettiest, the smartest. But the simple truth is that as humans, we are all sinners. We all fall short of the standard of holiness when we compare ourselves to the only One worth comparison – God (see Romans 3:23).

So, the next time we find ourselves comparing ourselves to the woman in line in front of us; the next time we think that we are somehow better than another person, let us remember that all that we may have – beauty, money, education – all of those things we have received from God.

And may that thought bring us to a place of humble gratitude that helps shape our minds so that we can catch those judgmental thoughts and cast them away immediately.

Let’s nurture attitudes of compassion instead of comparison.

Will you join me?

My Life As A Failure: It’s Okay To Be Wrong

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My Life As a Failure: It’s Okay Not To Fit In

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Why We Must Talk About Failure

Spilled Milk

Failure. Just thinking about that word makes me cringe. I think I can honestly say that there is nothing that I hate more than failing. And sadly, I fail a lot... ...every day it seems. I set goals for myself – to eat right, treat my spouse with more kindness, not get frustrated with my kids. … Continue reading →

Who Are We Becoming?

Mark Batterson, The Circle Maker

"We usually focus on what we're doing or where we're going, but God's primary concern is who we're becoming in the process." - Mark Batterson, The Circle Maker I can't tell you how much I LOVE this quote. If I could tell each women that I speak to, each client that I coach only ONE thing, this is … Continue reading →