Keeping it Personal with Emily

About Emily Buller

Emily is a pastor’s wife and a homeschooling mother of three. She loves reading good books, coffee, and spending time outside. She also loves to learn and is always seeking new information and ideas. Emily loves to learn through the ordinary things in life and then share those life lessons. She started writing, because she didn’t want to lose the sense of wonder about the world and wanted to capture some of those ordinary, but teachable moments.
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Choosing What Is Best

Awhile back, my youngest son went through a phase of only eating red things. So when he would get a few jellybeans as a treat, he would only eat the red ones and leave the rest on the table. When he was asked if he wanted the rest of the jelly beans, he would say “no, I only eat red ones.

Fifty amazing flavors and he will only eat the red ones! I couldn’t believe that a child would leave behind candy freely given to him. But I have come to realize that I have a few things to learn…

…even from my child.

I realized, albeit much later, that just because I am given a handful of good things, it doesn’t mean I should consume them all. I am not just talking of food here; however, if you give me a handful of jellybeans, I probably will eat them all.

I have recently had to take a long hard look at my schedule and my commitments. You see, I have all kinds of options and things that I can add into my daily or weekly routine, they are all good options, but choosing all of them is not good for me. This is where I have to follow the example of my son and be willing to leave some things behind…

…choosing only the best.

In the Bible, the writer of Hebrews speaks of running a race and encourages us to get rid of excess:

“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a huge crowd of witnesses to the life of faith, let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with endurance the race God has set before us. 2 We do this by keeping our eyes on Jesus, the champion who initiates and perfects our faith.” Hebrews 12:1-2

I am striving daily to choose what is best, knowing that at times that involves leaving behind some good things. Let me give you another example.

Last spring, a friend of mine was very excited about an opportunity for third graders in our city. She really wanted me to participate and had already figured out carpooling. Just weeks before she called, I had sat down and clarified for myself our purpose as a family in homeschooling.

The purpose and mission of this opportunity was clearly incongruent to our personal family mission so I had to say no to the opportunity, even though the event itself was not bad. It was one of our first opportunities to “choose the best and leave behind the rest.”

It is not always an easy task to discover and be committed to the best. That handful of jellybeans looks appetizing. You feel like you are missing out on some amazing flavors, but even so, sometimes it is best to just eat the red ones.

May you have the strength to choose what is best!

Question:  What is your biggest stumbling block when facing the decision to choose the best?  Are there good things in your life that might need to be eliminated because they are not the best?  Share your comment by clicking here.

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Be Here Now

When I was in college, I took a study skills class that was required for all incoming freshman. There is not a lot I took away from the class that I had not already heard somewhere before, but one of the things I do remember was the concept of “be here now.” It seemed new and novel, although it wasn’t. It was introduced a few years before I was born as a philosophy of an eastern religion.

However, this is not how it was presented to me. It was presented much more simply and with an emphasis on paying attention – it was a study skills class after all. I didn’t immediately begin paying more attention to everything, but the concept stuck with me. I remember sharing it with my husband, nearly five years later, because…

…it still seemed so important.

So, what is “Be here now?” Simply put, it is choosing to be fully present right where you are. It is not a failure to plan for the future, nor is it a refusal to think of the past.

It is about taking time to find joy in today and the situation you are in.

It is about taking time to play and smell the roses.

I still face challenges in choosing to be present. I am often thinking of the next thing on my to-do list, which seems to get longer instead of shorter. It is not always the easy choice, but my family needs me to be present with them, not just occupy the same house while we each do our own thing or zone out in front of the computer.

In order to be present among those most important, we must willing to disengage from the things that distract us. The things that distract will be different for each of us. Some will have to turn off the computer of put down the phone. Others will have to leave work at work and for others still it is the TV…

…the list of distractions is long.

Prioritize the things most important. It may be that the phone call can wait. Your favorite show can be recorded. Your friends may not notice if your Facebook status doesn’t get updated.

Set limits and establish accountability for the distractions that threaten to eat up your time. The second part of this is possibly the most important part. Without establishing accountability, you will very likely end up right back where you started.

If being present is a challenge for you, as it is for me, perhaps these ideas will help you as you choose to be present.

Question:  What are the distractions in your life that pull you away from being present?  Share your comment by clicking here.

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To Everything A Season

To Everything a season

My personal blog has sat silent for the better part of a month. We have entered a new season. At the end of May, we welcomed our fourth child into our family, so the demands on my time have changed considerably. Albeit it good changes. I must admit, I was slow to recognize this as a change of … Continue reading →

While You Are Waiting

Waiting

We are in a season of waiting, both again and still.  Some of the things we wait for have changed, some remain the same. Waiting is rarely easy, but it is inevitable that we will wait. Sometimes the wait is long, sometimes short. We wait in traffic and in the grocery store lines. We wait for … Continue reading →

Mirror, Mirror, Not Yet on the Wall

mirror on the floor

This weekend I went to visit some of my extended family. While we were there, we got to tour my cousin's new home. They have been working on the building of the home for almost two years. It is nearly finished and they should get to move in within the next two weeks. As we toured their home, each … Continue reading →

Three Ways to Fuel Potential in Others

gas can

“He surprises me sometimes,” I leaned over and whispered to my husband as we sat at the back of the room listening to one of our friends address the large group. “Yes, that often happens to me too,” he replied. We were both pleasantly surprised by the words spoken by our friend. Yet, I am … Continue reading →

Who You Are When You Get There

Who you are

  I remember the first time I really stopped and read this quote. It was posted on the door of a professor’s office where I was attending college. Every day, I walked by that somewhat ragged, photocopied quote taped to his door. I read a phrase of it each day as I walked by, … Continue reading →

Walk with Me

Walk with Me

Lately, I have seen and heard multiple conversations about mentoring, either in blog posts or in conversation. Now, not everyone calls it that. It depends on your age, your background, and your current circles. Sometimes, the mentor is referred to as a role model, a friend, or a coach. Sometimes it … Continue reading →