Why do people do this »» COMPARE?
What I’ve realized, as I ‘ve been working with my clients — and when I fall into comparison, is it brings feelings of inadequacy, depression, anxiety, fear, and self-pity. «« those are NOT lovely feelings! YUK!
Can YOU relate?
A lot of times comparison rears its ugly head when we try to “stack up against” character traits, roles, circumstances, and experiences – NOT necessarily material possessions. Some people think these things, let me explain by giving a couple examples:
Do you ever find yourself thinking some of those thoughts?
Do you ever compare yourself, experiences, situations, to others and feel inadequate, depressed, anxiety, fear, or self-pity?
I could list many more “comparing thoughts” that race through my mind from time to time. And because I work with SO many clients, personally + professionally — I know we are NOT alone!
Our minds just go there sometime.
BUT — the question is »» COMPARED TO WHAT?!?! «« who holds the measuring stick?
We have the ability to CHANGE OUR FOCUS!
We can start shining the light on what God has blessed us with!
We can appreciate the gifts and talents in others, BUT not lose focus on our strengths and what we have been given!
I was reminded the other day of the story in the Bible about the 3 servants who were given talents. One was given 5, one 2, and the other 1. May we NEVER be like the servant who was given 1 talent. What did he do? NOTHING. Out of fear, he did nothing – he was comparing himself and as a result paralyzed.
Step OUT of the comparison trap and ALL of the icky feelings that come with it and step INTO shining the light on our blessings and talents, learning to appreciate our uniqueness and our many gifts — instead of comparing and wishing we had or were something we ‘re not.
What do you say? Are you with me? Hit reply and let me know your feedback!