I admit it, I’m GUILTY. At times, of making assumptions.
It happens for all of us. RIGHT?
Some nights I lay awake in bed with my mind racing. Thoughts are going crazy playing out certain scenarios. I create outcomes and stories making my best guess about how others will respond, or decide what they are thinking.
Most of the time, when this is taking place — I’m not thinking of the best case scenario. NOPE. I’m not. I’m thinking of the worst.
WHY is this a problem?
Because our judgements of people and events are based on emotions, beliefs, expectations, and wishes — instead of facts and what is actually observed.
Assumptions are “things” accepted as true or as certain to happen, without proof. The the book, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, he says this about assumptions:
“We have the tendency to make assumptions about everything. The true problem with making these assumptions is that we believe they are the truth. We could swear they are real. We make assumptions about what others are doing or thinking-we take it personally-then we blame them and react by sending emotional poison with our word. That is why whenever we make assumptions, we’re asking for problems. We make assumptions, we misunderstand, and end up creating a whole big drama for nothing.
All of the sadness and drama you have in your life was rooted in making assumptions and taking things personally. Once we do these two things, we start gossiping about our assumptions. Because we are often fearful of asking for clarification, we make assumptions, and then believe that we are correct in these assumptions. Then, we defend these assumptions and try to make someone else wrong. It is always better to ask questions for clarification because assumptions set us up for suffering.”
SO much time and energy is wasted when we make them, plus anxiety and worry can build up which leads to no where and keeps us stuck.
Lets STOP the madness »» COMMUNICATION KILLS ASSUMPTIONS!
Kick fear to the curb and in ALL areas of our lives, personally + professionally:
How is “making assumptions” impacting your life? What can you do different to get different results? Leave a comment and let me know! I’d love to hear from YOU!