Sometimes we need to check our motives on things — especially when it comes to giving. If I’m honest, there are situations when I “give to get”. I may not speak that out loud, but in my heart — there’s a silent expectation. An unspoken assumption that IF I do/give __________________ (fill in the blank) perhaps I will receive ________________________ in return. (fill in the blank)
Can you relate to this? Even a tiny bit?
What happens when I have strings attached to my giving, I often feel let down or bitter. Resentment and judgement can rise up inside me along with disappointment.
I’m not talking only about monetary giving. I’m talking about ANY type of giving — time, advice, character, behavior, or other resources.
Do YOU give to get?
There are phrases like:
- If you want kindness, be kind.
- If you want friends, be friendly.
- If you want help, be helpful.
- If you want love, be loving.
- You get what you give.
The reality is, I haven’t always found that to be true. Sometimes, yes. But, people aren’t always kind, friendly, helpful, and loving — even when I’m kind, friendly, helpful, and loving to them!
Check in with yourself.
What are your motives when you give?
Lets not have silent expectations that no one is capable of meeting. Lets clearly communicate what we are looking for or hoping to accomplish. Lets focus on taking the high road, being a blessing, and freely giving — even when we know we can get nothing back.