Life is NOT About You

“Life is not about you.” – Jeff Goins

This quote became my favorite after reading Wrecked by Jeff Goins.

When I read this quote, it brought me back to a time when I was on the mission field in Guatemala. This was my very first short-term missions trip.  I lived in the city all my life and never served on the mission field before. So, I had no idea what to expect or what it would be like.  However, I learned quickly…

…it wasn’t about me.

Our team had just arrived to a dangerous region in the mountains and I was scared.  We all had to sleep on these flimsy bunk beds. Mind you, I’m not a sound sleeper.

So when one of the girls asked for the top bunk, I reluctantly agreed.  Sure enough…

…I couldn’t sleep.

Every time she would move, I would wake up. Not only that, someone else was snoring.  While I was trying to sleep, I kept envisioning people running after me with machetes. I don’t remember ever praying so much.

Needless to say, I didn’t get any sleep whatsoever.  When I got up the following morning, I was sleep deprived and grumpy. The only thing I wanted was a fresh cup of Guatemalan coffee.

As I was preparing it, the founder of the mission noticed I wasn’t myself and asked if I was ok.  Well, here was my opportunity to let her know exactly what happened to “poor ‘ole me.”

I explained to her how I didn’t get an ounce of sleep because the girl above me kept waking me up and someone else was snoring too loud.  She looked me straight in the eye and said, “It’s not about you . . . you have no rights.”  My jaw nearly dropped to the floor…

…I couldn’t believe it.

Where is the love? Where is the compassion? Didn’t she care about me?

All the while I thought she would give me just a little bit of sympathy or something . . . anything?

Years later, I remember her words and I understand what she means now. I couldn’t back then, but I do now. She was right.

Life isn’t about me.

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Today’s Post is shared by: Pilar Arsenec.  She is a legal secretary by day and a writer by night. On her spare time she enjoys spending time with her family, reading, writing, singing and cooking. You can find her blog, Ordinary Servant,


  1. says

    I love this quote, too, and have said it many times over the last few years. I think when we can really start understanding that life is not about us, it changes us forever. Love your heart, Pilar!

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