Fathers: More than one.

They did not choose this life.  They did not choose to have their biological mom live in one house and their biological dad live in another.  That is their reality and it has been since September 2006.  Their parents living apart, a family divided.

It hit me in a powerful way on Sunday, Father’s Day, how our heavenly Father causes all things to work together for good to those who love Him. The picture could’ve looked so different for my boys, because…

…divorce is ugly.

They could have a mom and dad who, even though divorced, fight, argue, cannot communicate effectively and don’t get along — but they don’t.

I see it everywhere and have friends who experience great tension and bitterness with their ex-spouse.  I see children torn and stuck in the middle looking for answers, attention, and peace.  I see a lot of blame, anger, and unforgivenss.  I see the children become innocent victims.  Would you agree that this is most often “normal” in our society?

Some outsiders look at our “family-unit” surprised or in disbelief.  Really, we are not normal.  We are all friends.  We all get along.  We all talk, laugh, parent, sit by each other at sporting events, carpool, and yes — sometimes travel together.  Yes. we. do.

As I look at this picture, I see two blessed LOVED little boys — with all their “fathers” in one room on Father’s Day.  This is a win.  Each play a special role in their lives.  They have the opportunity to enjoy quality time with four amazing role models who bring unique gifts, talents, and experiences into their world’s to glean from…


I understand this is not what they signed up for.  And life after divorce, not matter how well we get along, has its challenges and ups and downs.  But, we make the best of what God, our Heavenly Father, has so graciously blessed us with.  We focus on the good, communicate and work through the bad.  We learn and grow together — all of us — for the interest of the “greater good.”

Question:  How have you seen God work “not-so-good” things in your life for good?  Share your comment by clicking here.



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