Virtue: Self-Control

It’s getting better, I think — getting the boys on board with me to talk about these virtues  This morning, my younger one said to my older one, “Come, on Zach, lets just get this over with.”  The way I see it?  They are willing to be willing…

…so I embraced their small amount of willingness.

What is it? It’s control or restraint of oneself or one’s actions, feelings, etc. – willpower

…self-control, OUCH!

This virtue was easy for me to share examples of with my boys, I just talked about the areas in my life where I could use more of this fruit-of-the-spirit.

Living out this virtue in some areas of our lives is easier than others.  Just like most things, some days are easier than others, just as some moments are easier than others.

My examples…

Oreo cookies — I typically lose discipline with these when they are in our pantry, I love them and often have no problem eating the majority of package.  Moderation in this area would be helpful.

Yelling — yes, I raise my voice some times {ok…more frequently than I would like to admit, but my nuggets will tell you the truth.} I often wonder if they have ear plugs in their ears when I ask them to do something or to listen to me.  Instead of agitation I could use constraint and implement new tools to get their attention…I’m working on this.

To practice and grow in self-control it helps to take the time to think before we take action or speak.  It’s important to identify our feelings that trigger us to lose self-control, to blow-up, or get angry, or indulge, binge, get carried away.

I know that the example I set for my children in this area is extremely important.  We talked about accountability and I invited them into accountability with me.  I asked them to lovingly remind me when they see me not living this out.

When I can be authentic and transparent with others, I find it invites others to be authentic and transparent with me.  I want my children to see that I am not perfect, I struggle with issues in life, just as they do and I need grace, love, mercy, and forgiveness too.

SO, I pray for my children AND for myself, “Father, help me and my children not to be like many others around us, but let us be alert and self-controlled in all we do.  Open our eyes to see the areas in our life where we need self-control, give us the strength to live this virtue so that our life and actions would bring you joy. Amen.


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  1. Fayelle says

    I love going through this with my 2 1/2 year old. We read the bible verse, say the prayer and then I “dumb it down” a little and give examples. She doesn’t always understand, but that’s ok. At least she’s getting familiar with words and the greatest part? The word of the Lord is being spoken aloud to her, in our home. I think I might print this and do it every month, as a part of our morning routine, changing/adding/adapting as needed as she gets older. Thank you so much

    • Teri says

      You’re right…it’s OK that she doesn’t understand!! What a blessing that you’re intentional about this and want to continue doing it each morning — SO PRICELESS!! =)

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